Why did I wait so long to read this? Maybe because I thought it would be clinical or boring or make me want to roll my eyes at all the clients’ stories. None of that was true. Lori hooked me right from the beginning. Her patient stories were well-rounded, relatable, and beautiful.
I highlighted so many things. I regret that this isn’t a physical copy I can return to but am grateful that Kindle/Goodreads let’s you go back to your highlights to look through them.
I recommend this if you’ve been to therapy, thought someone was weird for going to therapy, or are considering it. The below quote is just one small paragraph of the helpful advice she gives throughout.
We have such a strong tendency to compare pain and say “at least I’m not …” or “come on, you’re not dying.” We’ve always done this but covid as exacerbated this problem. Then again last week with the snow and ice storm in Texas.
I’m sorry this book is over. So much that I could probably start it again right now.
“There’s no hierarchy of pain. Suffering shouldn’t be ranked, because pain is not a contest. Spouses often forget this, upping the ante on their suffering – I had the kids all day. My job is more demanding than yours. I’m lonelier than you are. Whose pain wins – or loses? But pain is pain.”